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A Big Pink Elephant

The Mother at the Swings is an ice-breaker on so many levels. Good conversation. And, there are many different points of view. It is a subject that should not be so uneasy - Gavin's mom, Karen, once called it their 'big pink elephant' that followed them around….

Not many of us grow up interacting with special need children on a daily basis. I did not. This is a new world for me too.

That reminds me, on several occasions I have thought of writing a book – The 'What to Expect When You Are Not Expecting ….a special needs child'. Personally, I think the book would sell millions……

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Or maybe I should go for one of those 'Idiot's Guides'.

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Comments

Anonymous said…
You should write a book! You are truly an inspiration and are an excellent writer. Your posts on the everyday are always great and the ones on the struggles even better as you are so honest and articulate. You are an amazing Mom and an amazing person.

A Friend
Heather BT said…
I'd love to see a book called the complete idiots guide to SN children. So often people assume it's the SN child that's the idiot, I love the assumption that it's the people who don't know.

Great Job on the walking with Burt Ivey, standing on your own too. Plus your hair is getting longer, it's so blond that it took longer to look like it was there, like my best friend Vicki's hair when we were growing up. It brings back good memories.
Heather BT
Karen Owens said…
I totally vote for "the idot's guide!"

So often us parents can feel like "idots" in the shadow of our amazing children, who teach us more than any great mind out there.
Anonymous said…
I think you should write it! I don't have a SN child, but I would be the first in line to buy it. You are an amazing writer and you AND your daughters strength would be an inspiration to millions. I will be watching for it...

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