The fair started up tonight. Officially fall. For me, it is a little more than that. It is a mile marker. The first fair after Ivey was born I couldn't help but wonder how we would ever get her there-let alone, enjoy it. The second time around (last year) she was at the fair– loving it. Today as we drove home and passed the fairgrounds the conversation centered on 1) another year has passed 2) we can't wait to take the boys and Ivey. I guess it all comes down to perspective.
P.e.r.s.p.e.c.t.i.v.e.
Once upon a time there was life before Ivey. A different time, a different person. I admit – Ivey has changed me. She put my life into perspective - quickly. At times it is refreshing, other times it is harsh reality, but most of the time she pulls us back to what is really important in life.
Every year the first night of the fair holds the exhibitions of the local cheerleading squads. At one point, I was fortunate to be a coach of one of those squads. Lots of work. Hectic practices. I was always proud of my girls.
When Ivey was born there was a moment that all felt lost. I am ashamed to admit that I could not see past the end of my own nose. As much as I love sports, how would she ever ……..do those things? I was focused on her disabilities. Stupid Stupid Perspective.
This year our town's local cheerleading gym, HotShots, has a new cheerleading squad - The Shining Stars. This competition cheerleading squad is comprised of special girls who have parents and people in our community who asked the question….Why not? So they have worked hard, and did their first performance in the fair's exhibition cheerleading performance tonight.
Now that my mind is wrapped around Ivey and all of her Abilities, why shouldn't she be able to be one of those cheerleaders when she is old enough? ….she is definitely a shining star. The countdown is on until Ivey is up on that stage......cheering and dancing her heart out....that would be quite a milestone wouldn't it? My heart understands now that yes, Ivey can do anything our hearts desire. It will take creativity, patience, heart, elbow grease and a positive perspective. It is possible and this reminded why....
Tonight I got a text message from my friend, a cheerleading coach, Ivey's Godmother…..
It simply said…… "The Shining Stars just performed. It kind of puts it all into perspective."
I did not get to see their performance either, but I am left to imagine the impact of that performance on the members of our community who were watching them.
Congratulations Shining Stars!!!! And everyone who is supporting them along the way!!!!
Comments
Wendy
Beautiful prose you have written. I hope to read more in the future. Thank you. -- Dr. Killjoy
I loved this entry. I feel like you and I hit 'stuff' at the same time.
Our girls are wonderful.
Thank you for reminding me that this is all about 'Ability' and not 'disabiity'.
A very welcome reminder!!!