Without a doubt the boys love their sister. But we are entering into a new arena these days. It's an arena many parents with children with special needs and their siblings are already in knee deep. Where we have always been cautious, extremely so, about time, equality and expectations, there are some areas where life is just different for the boys compared to Ivey. As each day passes those differences become more and more apparent and significant in some circumstances, another aspect of our ever present pink elephant. Case in point. The boys chores and homework are increasing with their ages. Even in the unbalance of special needs we are trudging through the magnitude of the pecking order and chores and homework amplification due to the inequality of birth order. Law, the world just ain't fair sometimes! Over the past few months, in moments where the drill sergeant in our home (that would be me - thanks to my marine corp upbringing at ...